Thursday, 7 November 2013

A TAD BIT OF ALL

I had written this post a thousand times in my mind, I was very skeptical about posting it on my blog because I hate to appear sensitive or emotional, then I thought, what if there is someone out there going through this same issue?

I have been thinking alot lately, It seems this 20 something age is having a toil on me, I'm at this stage where I have to be more of everything (Independent, responsible, career driven and purposeful).

Its a fun place to be but its also very overwhelming especially when you have no one to share the struggles and good times with. I hear you saying, but you are a twin and you have friends, yes I do, but have you ever been in a room full of people you know but you feel very lonely? I'm like that alot this days.

 


You have to wear your make-up nicely and dress nicely as well yet you are a mess inside because you are not sure if you made the right decisions, doing the right things or you are at the right place.

Let me take you back to when I was 20 and how I thought my life would have played out by now...Married to a God fearing man, Working for God or handling a ministry for him, have a business that is blooming and very happy and at peace with my life.

I'm not saying all this won't happen eventually, neither am I timing God, these states the importance of this post.

I have been doing some soul cleansing and talking to God alot these days and with that I came to a conclusion that for everything to go right, I need to first of all give God all.

I need to get to that place where I sincerely believe God is enough and I trust him totally. I'm not saying I don't have my doubting moments, I do but we need to learn to move from there.

God doesn't despise our baby steps, he wants to grow with us. That's what I have learnt. I'm reading alot of books about knowing God and the Holy Spirit.

 


Having placed the God factor in my life as my sole aim, I decided to divide the other spheres of my life into 5: Individuality, Independence, Relationships, Career, and Purpose.

Individuality- I do something's lately and I ask myself, Taiwo was that you? LOL! It seems to me like I'm growing to be a different person from who I used to be. I feel like I need to find myself (which I'm doing gradually). I like some of my new characters but I think some just stink(lol) though some of my friends like them because to them I'm better than I used to be (if you knew me, you would know I was unfriendly and I was pretty quiet) and this days I think I'm too nice and I talk too much.

I'm at that place where I feel I need to learn to keep my own company (not that I don't know how but I need to do a bit more like take myself out, spoil myself e.t.c), I need to learn to be happy and joyful on my own. I need to know who I am and learn to complete me before someone else can,  and all those personal stuffs. My values haven't changed much (I'm still pretty much old fashioned) but I can't seem to answer if I'm an introvert or an extrovert, I feel like I'm in between.

Independence: when I was younger, I had looked forward to this time of my life but its a different story now. I still live with my parents but that's all I have, accommodation and feeding. I make decisions for myself now without having to tell my mum or twin. Its a weird place to be and it is very overwhelming especially when it comes to my business decisions but it could be very interesting too.

I get scared of making the wrong decisions but I learnt that's where God comes in, I have to let him handle that and I just follow his lead. I need to learn to trust him totally.

 


Relationships: When I talk about relationships I don't mean the opposite sex alone. I want to grow and have meaningful relationships with both men and women meaning I will have to drop off some baggage's. As I grow older, I realize the importance of 'True Friendship' and I have come to know that a true friend isn't someone you see everyday but someone you know will always be there for you, this is the part where I thank God for giving me my one and only TRUE FRIEND (my twin Kehinde). A friend like this is rare but you will know when you have found one.
 


Some people think I'm too marriage oriented(if there is anything like that). I'm a sucker for love but I won't tell you I'm the best person to talk to about relationships(I'm quite knowledgeable in that area though, thanks to the uncountable books I have read and my church) but I have had my fair share of heart breaks like any girl my age and I must confess, it gets lonely sometimes being single and not having someone you can call yours(you know, the one you can call at midnight just to whine and he is ready to listen amongst other things) but I'm learning to let God handle this too, I can't say I want the best and I would meet/get him based on my own understanding.

I'm just learning to be a better person and grooming myself while I wait,as my (spiritual) big sister will say, my waiting period is a very essential part of my life, where I know my purpose and define my walk with God. Once married, I can't take this time back.

 

Career: This is a major part of my life right now. I quit my full time job for business not because I'm strong but honestly I just felt I had to make a decision and I must say, it has been an awesome experience and I have enjoyed the journey so far but I still worry if I made the right decision, maybe I should have worked some more, maybe I should have asked God if that's what he really wanted me to do, will I succeed in this? Maybe I should have gotten capital before starting out, When will I meet my God sent helper?....I have so many questions but the Holy Spirit has been dealing with me lately, all he is asking me to do is drop it at God's feet. It reminds me of Matthew 6:27 ''Which of  you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?'' No matter how much I worry, I can't make a difference. I'm getting to that place where I'm so tired of questioning and crying, but just asking him to take total control.
 


Purpose: I have been wondering and asking what I'm on earth for, what I'm meant to be doing, if I'm doing what God wanted me to do. Sometimes I think maybe I'm just meant to do things I enjoy and help others while at It but sometimes its not fulfilling so I'm guessing that's not my purpose.


Like one of my Pastors will say, 'You have to consciously and intentionally live a life of purpose', and for this to happen, I have to step back and check my relationship with God because he is the only one who can make my purpose known to me and help feel the void I feel .
 

I need to stop here, (sigh) that's me sharing the dark and grey areas of my life with you, do you have any?
                                     
  
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 ''I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me'' PHILIPPIANS 4:13


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22 comments:

  1. Awww Taiwo. So touching. Made me think deep abt myself too. God bless u for d post.

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    1. I thank God it helped you. Thanks for reading

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  2. Very bearing,a lot feel this way,we depend on God to make it all better,just keep trusting him,I can totly relate,it is well and great piece!

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    1. Amen. I'm amazed with the response. I thought it was just me. Thanks for reading.

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  3. Waow Taiwo u just blessed me.......awwwwwwwwwwww * hugs

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  4. Lovely post taiwo! Thanks for sharing! May God empower u with grace to hold on till the end! This is just the beginning of greater things to come in ur life, God bless u!

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    1. Thanks Eejay. Thanks for reading dear. Amen and amen. God bless you too.

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  5. Taiwo, thnks for sharing, I can relate to this post so much! May God empower u with grace to hold on till the end! It can only get better for u, stay blessed!

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  6. Nice write-up... We all go through that stage of our life when we can't just afford to make a mistake with our decisions but one thing I can assure you is that 'You'll be fine', atleast that's what I say to myself and it works for me.

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  7. Awesome post,I can totally relate. God bless u

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  8. Truthfully, you got me thinking. I have been thinking about my life lately but it is no fun to me and I tend to take the easy way out by hanging out with friends that I personally know are misleading me but it is fun with them and I'm taking several steps farther from God. Taiwo you made me realise something, that I need to let God in totally which I have been doing recently. God bless you. Bukky.

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    1. I have been here before, it's not a good place to be. I thank God you have woken up. Thanks for reading dear. God bless us all.

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  9. Thanks for this post. I just want to add that in this part of the world a lot of people get pressured to achieve a lot. I just want to say its ok not to have your life figured out yet. Its ok. A lot of us don't know what we want to do for the rest of our lives. Thats fine. Here's d good part. U get to do a lot of stuff and make mistakes and that's okay. Just trust in God. U'll get dere. And please don't compare yourself with others. Hat is an exercise in futility.

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  10. Hello Taiwo, sharing such a piece I must admit must av take a grand decision; bcos some if not all of these issues are things we go thru internally but often cannot share. However, ur resolve in d friend closer than all friend who serves d purpose as our competitive advantage is simply d best! Wen I get to those musing moments, I lay all my cares and burden unto God bcos he actually requested dt I shld come unto Him with my heavy burden so he can give me rest (Matt 11:28 28 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest' ). Cheers!

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  11. Hi taiwo,
    I love this write up soo much cos it just made me realise I am not alone in this and somebody understands what I cnt really express vocally.I have also come to realise dt until u have found dt place of peace with God u really just keep going back nd forth.Honestly,it is nt a walk in the park but the reward is beyond wrds.God bless!Simi

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  12. Hnmm! What can I say...find your place in God and stay there - every other thing will fall in place. We are complete in HIM! God bless you.

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  13. Taiwo, this is a great piece of writing. It makes me reflect on every aspects of life you mentioned. God is the answer to all questions. Keep it up!

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  14. Exactly my thoughts! Thanks sis.

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